6.Healing Yourself with EFT
Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) are a set of unconventional techniques from the group of "energy meridian therapies" that address both professionals and non-professionals, a method of healing and self-healing both emotional and physical problems.
EFT is a procedure that is also called emotional acupuncture because it combines the stimulation of energy centers at the ends of the meridians - through light tapping (press-puncture) - with elements of stimulating the cerebral hemispheres, while directing attention to what the pain means, unhappy memories, emotions that cause discomfort, different addictions, cravings, etc.
The method is very simple and once learned it can be applied in any situation because:
it does not involve surgical procedures
no needles are used
no drugs or chemicals are used
it does not push and pull the body, being absolutely non-invasive
EFT is easy to learn, can be done anywhere, and often the results are immediate. It is applied and works for people of all ages, including infants and even for pets.
EFT was developed and used initially for the treatment of phobias and post-traumatic stress disorders but later, it has been found to be equally effective in treating a wide range of problems.
Gary Craig simplified the complex algorithms of TFT (Thought Field Therapy) - the method that underlies EFT - and developed a unique, general-purpose algorithm that can be used in all cases of breaking the energy system.
Once memorised, the Basic Recipe becomes a lifelong friend! It can be applied to an almost endless list of physical and emotional problems and offers solutions to most of them.
👇🏽Find attached below a more in depth discussion about this technique.
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How to practice EFT exercises?
The method involves tapping on specific points on the body with your fingers, while focusing on a specific issue or problem.
The tapping points are located on the face and upper body, including the top of the head, the eyebrow, the side of the eye, under the eye, under the nose, on the chin, the collarbone, and under the arm. Tapping on these specific points is thought to balance the body's energy and alleviate negative emotions.
The EFT process starts with a set-up phrase, where you focus on the issue you want to address and repeat a reminder phrase while tapping the karate chop point. And then the practitioner will proceed with tapping the remaining points while focusing on the issue and repeating the reminder phrase.
The method is considered as a form of energy psychology, and it is simple and easy to learn, it can be done anywhere, and it is non-invasive.
- The "Surrender" Exercise
To "surrender" means to give up resistance to Life, to give up an identity and control, which are anyway illusory. This may seem scary, because it means that you are agreeing to dissolve. But exactly when you do this, you are really opening up to Life.
Beginning of the eyebrow: I surrender!
Tail of the eye: I give up the need for control
Under the eye: I also give up the need to surrender control
Under the nose: I give up the lack of power in surrendering control
Chin: I give up the way I think my life should be
Collarbone: I give up my desire for things to be different
Under the arm: I give up my surrender
Under the chest: I give up my need to be good
Wrist: I give up my need to be accepted
Top of the head: I surrender!
Beginning of the eyebrow: Thank you, Universe!
Tail of the eye: I give up the need to know
Under the eye: I give up the need to be known
Under the nose: I give up the need for others to accept me
Chin: I give up my imperfections
Collarbone: I give up the need to be perfect
Under the arm: I give up my dependencies
Under the chest: I give up my purpose in life
Wrist: I give up my relationships
Top of the head: I give up the need to be loved
Beginning of the eyebrow: I give up goals and desires
Tail of the eye: I give up my heart
Under the eye: My mind
Under the nose: My body
Chin: My spirit
Collarbone: I give up my ego
Under the arm: I give up any need to surrender
Under the chest: I give up the inability to surrender
Wrist: I give up everything
Top of the head: I surrender!
Beginning of the eyebrow: Universe, I Surrender! I Surrender to my Highest Good!
Tail of the eye: You brought me here, You brought me to this situation,
Under the eye: I release and let go of any resistance
Under the nose: I release and let go of any need to control the outcome
Chin: I trust in the unfolding of my highest good
Collarbone: I let go of my attachments
Under the arm: I am open and receptive to receiving my highest good
Under the chest: I let go of my fears and doubts
Wrist: I am grateful for the blessings in my life
Top of the head: I Surrender!"
The universe has no limits, only our mind is limited. When we are truly ready and daring to have complete trust, we say a simple prayer:
"Universe, I surrender! I surrender to my highest good! You brought me here, you brought me in this situation, you brought me in relationship with these people, you want this dream to come true for me. I surrender completely, so that these things manifest! Please bring the highest good for each person involved and help me to enter into the flow of Grace, so that I can feel how Life flows and for me, according to the Plan. Help me to step out of my way and to see the Beauty of Life flowing".
2. The "Self-Forgiveness" Exercise
It is very important to leave the past behind, overcome blockages and integrate experiences, and for this we must be able to overcome resentments - most often repressed and operated at a subconscious level so that we do not know they are there, until we go through such a process.
The basic concept of the Radical Forgiveness method is that ALL FORGIVENESS IS SELF-FORGIVENESS.
This means in equal measure that:
1) The forgiveness that seems to be given to others is first and foremost a gift we give ourselves.
2) Every forgiveness process for others is equally a forgiveness process for ourselves.
Connect to the negative emotion related to the feeling of Guilt and/or Shame regarding things you have done and would have liked to have done differently or things you haven't done and would have liked to have done. Notice on a scale of 1 to 10 what is the intensity of this emotion and work the following exercise until you feel that this intensity decreases. Repeat a minimum of 21 days or until you consider that you are in a state of complete Forgiveness.
Setting statement:
Karate point (PK): 1). Although I feel this negative emotion and at a certain level I refuse to forgive myself, I accept myself exactly as I am and I want to love myself fully.
Karate point (PK): 2). Although a part of me wants to forgive but there is another that holds me back, I decide to accept all parts of myself.
Karate point (PK): 3). Although this non-forgiveness program has served me in a certain way, that's why I won't let it go - so nobody can force me to do it - I accept myself as I am and want to learn complete Forgiveness.
Bringing attention:
Beginning of the eyebrow (IS): I feel this negative emotion for all the non-forgiveness, guilt and shame I carry
Tail of the Eye (CO): I feel this emotion in my physical, mental and emotional body
Under the Eye (SO): I have brought so much suffering
Under the Nose (SN): That it's no wonder I can't forgive myself
Chin (B): For everything I've done wrong
Collarbone (C): For the good things I've missed
Under the Arm (SB): I still can't fully forgive myself
Under the Chest (SP): Maybe I still have to pay
Wrist (IM): Even if I punish myself equally
Top of the Head (VC): By keeping me prisoner of my thoughts
Beginning of the eyebrow (IS): But I still want to forgive myself completely,
Tail of the Eye (CO): And free myself from this pain
Under the Eye (SO): Because I truly deserve it
Under the Nose (SN): To not be a victim twice
Chin (B): First, a victim of my own mistakes
Clavicle (C): If in the second, the victim of their own unforgiveness
Under Arm (SB): Although I keep the energy of unforgiveness in every cell of my body
Under Chest (SP): I choose to learn to release it
Hand Joints (IM): I allow my body to release it
Forehead Start (IS): Through which I made it possible to see the gifts received
Beginning of the eyebrow (IS): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the muscles of my body
Tail of the eye (CO): And I am learning to release it now
Under the eye (SO): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the ligaments of my body
Under the nose (SN): And I want to release it now
Chin (B): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the tendons of my body
Collarbone (C): And I choose to release it now
Under the arm (SB): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the joints of my body
Under the chest (SP): And I am learning to release it now
Wrist (IM): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the bones of my body
Top of the head (VC): And I want to release it now
Beginning of the eyebrow (IS): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the cartilage of my body
Tail of the eye (CO): And I am learning to release it now
Under the eye (SO): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the tissues of my body
Under the nose (SN): And I want to release it now
Chin (B): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the nerves of my body
Collarbone (C): And I choose to release it now
Under the arm (SB): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the fascia of my body
Under the chest (SP): And I am learning to release it now
Wrist (IM): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the membranes of my body
Top of the head (VC): And I want to release it now
Beginning of the eyebrow (IS): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the cells of my skin
Tail of the eye (CO): And I choose to release it now
Under the eye (SO): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the cells of my spinal column
Under the nose (SN): And I am learning to release it now
Chin (B): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the fibers of my body
Collarbone (C): And I want to release it now
Under the arm (SB): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the fluids of my body
Under the chest (SP): And I choose to release it now
Wrist (IM): I am holding captive the energy of my own lack of forgiveness in all the organs of my body
Top of the head (VC): And I am learning to release it now
Inceput of the Eyebrow (IS): I am holding captive the energy of my own non-forgiveness in every cell of my heart
Tail of the Eye (CO): And I want to release it now
Under the Eye (SO): I am holding captive the energy of my own non-forgiveness in all the neural pathways in my brain
Under the Nose (SN): And I choose to release it now
Chin (B): I am holding captive the energy of my own non-forgiveness in every cell of my eyes
Clavicle (C): And I am learning to release it now
Under the Arm (SB): I am holding captive the energy of my own non-forgiveness in every cell of my ears
Under the Chest (SP): And I want to release it now
Wrist (IM): I am holding captive the energy of my own non-forgiveness in every cell of my mouth
10.Top of the Head (VC): And I choose to release it now
Inceput of the Eyebrow (IS): I am holding captive the energy of my own non-forgiveness in my whole tactile sense
Tail of the Eye (CO): And I am learning to release it now
Under the Eye (SO): I am holding captive the energy of my own non-forgiveness in every cell of my nose and in smell
Under the Nose (SN): And I want to release it now
Chin (B): I am holding captive the energy of my own non-forgiveness in my whole aura
Clavicle (C): And I choose to release it now
Under the Arm (SB): I am holding captive the energy of my own non-forgiveness in every cell of my energy body
Under the Chest (SP): And I am learning to release it now
Wrist (IM): I want to release all this blocked energy
10.Top of the Head (VC): And I choose to do it now
Inceput of the Eyebrow (IS): I allow my body to relax
Tail of the Eye (CO): And to release the energy of my own non-forgiveness from every cell of my body
Under the Eye (SO): My body chooses to relax and release the energy of my own non-forgiveness
Under the Nose (SN): My body no longer needs to hold on to the energy of my own non-forgiveness
Chin (B): And releases it from all the receptive cells, now and forever
Clavicle (C): I forgive myself for holding myself prisoner to my thoughts
Under the Arm (SB): I open myself to the possibility
Under the Chest (SP): That I can be one of my best teachers
Wrist (IM): I open myself to the possibility
10.Top of the Head (VC): That at a soul level, I have taken on this lesson
Tail of the Eye (CO): Through creating all the trials and then overcoming them
Under Eye (SO): The negative emotion I feel about myself
Under Nose (SN): It is a signal that I am in the energy of judgment
Chin (B): Refusing my own release
Clavicle (C): And I forgive myself completely for these blockages
Under Arm (SB): I open myself to the possibility that nothing and no one is "right" or "wrong"
Under Chest (SP): I give up the need to blame myself
Hand Joints (IM): And I open myself to the possibility of good in every life situation
Top of the Head (VC): Even if I do not fully understand "what", "why" or "how"
Forehead Start (IS): May I be aware of fulfilling comfort
Tail of the Eye (CO): That all things are now, always have been and always will be
Under Eye (SO): In perfect divine order, unfolding in accordance with a higher plan
Under Nose (SN): May I surrender
Chin (B): To this Truth, whether I understand it or not
Clavicle (C): May I ask for help from the Higher Consciousness
Under Arm (SB): To easily connect with my Divine Self
Under Chest (SP): With every aspect of my being and completely
Hand Joints (IM): So that I can truly say and feel
Top of the Head (VC): That we are all ONE.
Beginning of the Eyebrow (IS): I deeply and completely love and accept myself,
Tail of the Eye (CO): I love and value myself for who I AM,
Under Eye (SO): For all of my efforts,
Under Nose (SN): For all of my choices,
Chin (B): For the wonderful person I am,
Collarbone (C): Without even realizing how valuable I am,
Under Arm (SB): I am here and will always be here,
Under Chest (SP): To say I love myself!
Wrist (IM): I love and accept myself exactly as I am,
Crown of Head (VC): And that's just how it is!
We breathe deeply, we relax, we release!
Inspiration: http://www.radicalforgiveness.com/ and http://www.breakthroughperformance.net
3. The "Self-Love and Acceptance" Exercise
Self-love and appreciation are not easy subjects for those who were shown and told in childhood that they are not perfect. All the "truths" told by parents, teachers, caregivers, peers, and society in general, all the comments - although often sincere - about a "reality" that needs to be improved in order to be accepted, have only led to the conclusion that human beings are far from deserving love - simply because they are not perfect.
It's time to change this paradigm - not only because we see how limiting it is, but also because we can!
We take a deep breath, relax and do the following exercise - in the morning, evening or any preferred moment during the day, for a minimum of 30 days.
Setting statement:
Karate Point (PK): 1) Even though I don't know how to truly love myself and a part of me doesn't believe it's possible, I forgive and accept myself anyway.
Karate Point (PK): 2) Even though self-love and acceptance are not my strong points, and a part of me wants to keep things the way they are - because they help me stay safe, they help me not to get hurt when others don't love and accept me - I still choose to learn to get used to it.
Karate Point (PK): 3) Even though I haven't deeply and fully loved and accepted myself truly until now, because I didn't know how to and a part of me still doesn't want to learn, I choose to accept all parts of myself and forgive myself, anyway.
Bringing attention to:
Forehead Start (IS): I release and let go of all Sadness and all Fears
Tail of the Eye (CO): All Anger and Emotional Traumas, Resentments and Guilt
Under Eye (SO): Judgments, Abandonments and Betrayals
Under Nose (SN): Lack of power, Lack of hope, Lack of control, Rejections and all the like.
Chin (B): It's okay to release them and I am safe to do so
Clavicle (C): A part of my being knows that I am loved, wanted and supported in this world
Under Arm (SB): And that part of me is ready to teach my whole being this truth
Under Chest (SP): And it does so now with grace and ease
Hand Joints (IM): My mind, body and spirit receive this information
Top of the Head (VC): The information is fully transferred NOW
Beginning of Eyebrow (IS): I release any difficulty I have had in loving and accepting myself fully and deeply, with all flaws and shortcomings
2. Tail of the Eye (CO): I release the initial decision to not love myself, at any level I made it, knowingly or unknowingly
Under Eye (SO): I release all the moments and ways in which I learned to criticize myself
Under Nose (SN): I release and forgive all those who contributed to the conclusion that I inevitably have flaws
Chin (B): I release and forgive all beliefs that have prevented me from loving and accepting myself fully
Clavicle (C): I release all tendencies to believe that I deserve to be punished
Under Arm (SB): I release all moments and ways in which I have self-punished and been punished
Under Chest (SP): I release all predictions about my fate and the part of me that believes in them
Hand Joints (IM): I release all beliefs held by any part of me that believes I am a burden in others' lives
Top of the Head (VC): I release anything I have accepted as truth in my life that no longer serves my highest good in the present
Forehead Start (IS): I release all moments and ways in which I have learned that I have to be perfect to be loved
Tail of the Eye (CO): I release all tendencies of perfectionism, which are no longer in the interest of my evolution
Under Eye (SO): I release all expectations that no longer serve my highest good
Under Nose (SN): I release all conflicts I have with myself, in relation to my own flaws and shortcomings
Chin (B): I release all dictator roles that certain parts of me may have in relation to other parts of my being
Clavicle (C): I release all ways and moments in which I disapprove of myself
Under Arm (SB): I release all ways and moments in which I feel ashamed
Under Chest (SP): I release all the reasons why parts of me expect to be rejected by others
Hand Joints (IM): I release all the ways and moments I have learned to feel inferior
Top of the Head (VC): I release all the ways and moments I have learned to feel humiliated
Forehead Start (IS): I release all the ways and moments I have learned to feel hurt
Tail of the Eye (CO): I release all the ways and moments I have felt rejected and abandoned
Under Eye (SO): I release all the ways and moments my love for someone was mocked
Under Nose (SN): I release the initial decision made by the part of me that believes I do not deserve to be loved
Chin (B): I release all the hardships I have subjected myself to
Clavicle (C): I release all the moments and ways I have subjected myself to hardship
Under Arm (SB): I release all the ways I am not in energetic alignment with my whole being
Under Chest (SP): I release all the hardships I have gone through to be myself
Hand Joints (IM): I release all the disappointments related to what I haven't accomplished
Top of the Head (VC): I release all the regrets I have
Forehead Start (IS): I release all conflicts that exist between different parts of me, to express my own essence
Tail of the Eye (CO): I release all the unforgiveness located in any part of me
Under Eye (SO): I release any part of me that has been rejected and unloved
Under Nose (SN): I release any part of me that is in conflict with how I am leading my life
Chin (B): I release any anger that certain parts of me may have towards other parts of my being
Clavicle (C): I release any suffering brought on by certain parts of me
Under Arm (SB): I release all moments and ways in which certain parts of me cannot forgive all the pain they have gone through
Under Chest (SP): I release all parts of me that are against the desire to fully love and accept myself
Hand Joints (IM): I release all parts of me that are against the desire to be loved and accepted fully
Top of the Head (VC): I release all moments and ways in which I have underestimated myself
Forehead Start (IS): I release all moments and ways in which I believed there was something wrong with me
Tail of the Eye (CO): I release all decisions made by parts of me that have decided I am not enough
Under Eye (SO): I release all moments and ways in which I have undermined my authority and chances of success
Under Nose (SN): I release all reasons why I believe I am not good enough
Chin (B): I release everything that makes my talents and abilities diminish
Clavicle (C): I release all parts of me that have destroyed my talents and abilities
Under Arm (SB): I release all parts of me that do not feel comfortable expressing their talents and abilities
Under Chest (SP): I release all parts of me that do not feel safe expressing their talents and abilities
Hand Joints (IM): I release all fears of parts of me that prevent me from having the success and enjoyment I desire
Top of the Head (VC): I release all ways in which I keep making the same mistakes repeatedly
Forehead Start (IS): I release all moments and ways in which I have accepted the unacceptable
Tail of the Eye (CO): I release all tendencies to say "yes" when I feel "no" and "no" when I feel "yes"
Under Eye (SO): I release all tendencies to rush to please others
Under Nose (SN): I release all tendencies to not let others take responsibility
Chin (B): I release all the ways and moments when I tend to avoid conflicts and not stand up for my causes and rights
Clavicle (C): I release all tendencies to believe that others know what is best for me
Under Arm (SB): I release all tendencies to need others' approval when making a choice
Under Chest (SP): I release all ways in which I have difficulties thinking highly of myself
Hand Joints (IM): I release all tendencies to settle for less
Top of the Head (VC): I release the tendency to be afraid of meeting new people
Forehead Start (IS): I release all the ways and moments when I am scared of the world
Tail of the Eye (CO): I release all the ways and moments when I prefer to stay in the shadows
Under Eye (SO): I release all the ways and moments when I believe that I am not truly important and don't matter
Under Nose (SN): I release all traumas and issues inherited, in any way related to all these releases
Chin (B): I release all tendencies on any level of my being, in which I make anyone or anything responsible for all subjects of these releases.
Clavicle (C): I release any unforgiveness I hold on any level of my being, in relation to the subjects of these releases
Under Arm (SB): I release all mechanisms, vulnerabilities, belief systems, oaths, decisions, and commitments made on any level of my being, that allow any aspects of these releases to continue
Under Chest (SP): I release all fears, worries, and doubts held by any part of me, related to the effectiveness and permanence of these releases
Hand Joints (IM): I release the ways in which all these situations are manifested in my body, my energy field, on a DNA level, cellular and molecular level
Top of the Head (VC): I release all patterns, emotions, behaviors, habits and thoughts connected to all the situations I am working on now
Forehead Start (IS): From now on I treat myself with support and love
Tail of the Eye (CO): I easily discover new qualities in myself every day
Under Eye (SO): I choose to observe my talents and feel good expressing them
Under Nose (SN): I install new ways of understanding that I am just as important as anyone else
Chin (B): I install new ways of understanding that my presence is pleasing to others
Clavicle (C): From now on I act in ways that clearly show the wonderful being that I am
Under Arm (SB): I am determined now to express myself as well as I can, fully
Hand Joints (IM): I am now aware of my uniqueness and it is easy for me
Top of the Head (VC): to do so safely
Forehead Start (IS): I possess extraordinary qualities
Tail of the Eye (CO): And I truly believe that anyone can be proud to relate to me, including any and all parts of my being
Under Eye (SO): I am grateful for the openness, courage, and honesty with which I work for myself
Under Nose (SN): I now embrace my true power of self-love and acceptance, fully and deeply
Chin (B): I invite my Higher Mind to find new affirmations that support me and to play them now
Clavicle (C): I am now forming new neural pathways that support, strengthen, and continue the healing and releases that have occurred
Under Arm (SB): As well as the ones that will come
Under Chest (SP): All parts of my being receive this healing now
Hand Joints (IM): In total self-acceptance and in deep gratitude for who I am
Top of the Head (VC): I extend this healing and all these releases, into my entire past, present and future
We breathe deeply, we relax, we release!